The Fine Line Between Being Involved and Being in Charge

Interested parents

 

Don’t be this kind of parent.

When it comes to interacting with your kids, there’s a fine line between “being involved” and “being in charge.”

We hear a lot about the Helicopter Parents in the media, and we talk about them a lot in our blog and on our podcast.  It’s easy to identify the Helicopter Parents out there when you aren’t one.  They’re the parents involved in every aspect of their kids’ lives.  But there’s a flip side to this, as well – it’s the disconnected parents.  These parents are equally easy to spot, especially if you’re a Helicopter Parent: they’re the parents who aren’t a part of their kids’ lives, don’t attend their events, and don’t seem to care.

So how do you find the right middle ground, where you can stay involved and be a part of your kids’ lives, without stepping too far and taking charge?

This week, on the podcast, we interview Brock from CleverDude.com, who shares with us some of his ideas about how to get involved in your kids’ lives – in a way that shows them that you care, but you’re not trying to take over.  The end result?  You have great conversations with your kids on their terms, and leave them better prepared to succeed  on their own.

 


 

Resources for this week’s episode:

This week’s Money in the Media is a tale of breakfast cereal.  Well, not totally, though breakfast cereal does have a starring role.  At issue is the question: “Should parents require that their kids perform specific chores?”  It turns out that a surprising number of parents these days say “No,” and that decision is having a dramatic impact on their kids’ lives.

IntellectualTakeout.org does some thoughtful investigation on this:
Let’s face it: modern parents love and want the best for their children. And in an attempt to achieve that best, parents have pushed aside chore requirements because their children fussed over them or simply didn’t have time to handle them with the busyness of school, sports, and extra-curricular activities. 

Read the full article for more insights.

And finally, from CleverDude.com:

You can check out some of the conversations he’s had with his son, particularly when his son got a job and started bringing in his own income.  Pay attention to how Brock has conversations with his son, rather than stepping in and telling his son “this is how it’s going to be.”

 

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