Be Intentional to Be a Great Parent
Intentionality isn’t a word we often associate with parenting. Something about parenting seems much more chaotic than that. Kind of like herding cats. But don’t most of us intend to be a good parent?
Being intentional seems like the opposite: calm, purposeful, even powerful. So when our guest this week started talking about being intentional with her kids, it really got me thinking about what makes a successful parent and I realized that successful parents do have a plan, but it’s not a list of action items, it’s a picture of how they want their family life to look. They then work towards achieving that picture. Their plan is simple three-step process:
- Decide what makes a happy, successful family in my mind
- Take one small step today toward making my picture complete
- Figure out what the next small step will be
The parenting we all witness in our everyday lives doesn’t seem to follow that plan. More and more often we hear of parents who just react to their kids’ latest emergency, and then lament that things aren’t going well. It reminds me of the time I decided I was going to run a 5k and was walking before the starting line was out of my sight.
I wasn’t intentional about taking the right steps toward my goal — and then I was disappointed that things didn’t go as well as I’d hoped.
In any case, Jill has some really valuable insights that you’re going to love.
Sometimes it’s the little things
One of my favorite parts of Jill’s interview was when she talked about the mason jar system she and her husband, Heath, devised. She told us we could steal it, so we’ll give you the details but from here on out we’re calling it the Vosberg system. Click on the box below to download the pdf where we outline it for you.
After the interview, we also discuss a six-year-old boy who takes his mom out on a date once a month using his own money. Mom says it is a way for them to connect, for her to teach him manners and how to act on a date, but some people think she’s teaching him a bad lesson. I think she’s trying to be a great parent. What do you think?